You gotta read this!
For all the money spent on the research Cornell University does...
THIS IS A TOTAL WASTE!
From the FREEP.COM
Article written by Melissa Healy
Los Angeles Times
"BIG EARNING WOMEN MORE CHEATED ON"
Does anybody else remember the classics perfume ad for the late 1970's?
"I can bring home, fry it up in the pan. And never, never, never let you forget you're a man."
It turns out, the dynamics of gender identity are a bit more complicated. In many cases, women who are bringing home the bacon will need the frying pan for something very different: They'll need it to clobber their philandering partners.
The message conveyed in a study released this week is certain to stir anger among women who work hard outside the home: If you are the betrayed wife or female partner of a philandering man, it suggests, you may have your paycheck to blame.
Being in a relationship with a female partner who earns more than he does can make a man feel less of a man, Cornell University sociologist, Christian Munsch... told colleagues at the annual confab of the America Sociological Association. To affirm and restore his battered sense of manhood, a man may feel he needs to go outside the relationship in search of sexual conquest, she said.
She cites research showing that nothings makes a man feel like "the man" like a sexual conquest. "Sexual encounters, particularly with multiple women are a defining feature of hegemonic masculinity," Munsch writes.
Yes, yes, if course , relationship satisfactions matters, as does the religiosity of the man in question . As either increases, the odds of a man engaging extramarital sex go down, Munsch found. One factor that makes a man more likely to stray from a relationship is a low level of education.
NOW, LET ME JUST PERSONALLY interject something, deeply explaining my first statement.
Of all the money, brainpower and time that Cornell University has spent and continue to spend on fantastic useful research...THIS WAS A WASTE OF TIME! A WASTE OF ALL IT'S VERY VALUABLE RESOURCES. We didn't need Cornell 's brainpower to be wasted on something that MANY, MANY, MANY of us already knew!!!
And what we knew is this, Men will use any "excuse" to sleep around, being unfaithful."
All Cornell University's Christin Munsch did was sound as if she was legitimizing this excuse. SO WHAT, your wife makes more than you! IF YOU WERE A REAL MAN, You'd be GRATEFUL to have a woman who was productive, driven, successful AND LOVES YOUR POOR BUTT! Does she treat you like you are less? If not then what is your issue go to do with her?
Be a Man and recognize it is you and take care of the situation in a positive manner without destroying your relationship. In case you haven't looked around at your friends, and family members relationships lately...let me remind you that this world is a very bleak place without a supportive, trusting loving partner in your life! And they don't come by often nor easy! GET A GET A GRIP DUDE!!!
Why should the woman that works hard, achieving, feel bad "have their paychecks to blame", insinuating that it is the woman's fault for working hard that her man cheats. YEP! This angered me, as a hard working woman. It also angered my female co-worker who was reading this at lunch today. WHAT CRAP! Blame their pay paychecks, how about just leaving all of the blame on the man, for he knows what he has at home!
If a man feels less of a man because she makes more, then HE WASN'T MUCH OF A MAN BEFORE HE GOT HER! I'll say it again to provide clarity in case you thought I was biting my tongue. If the man man feels less because of the woman's bank account, HE WASN'T MUCH OF A MAN TO BEGIN WITH!!! Further more, if the guy had a problem with her bank, then I would think instead of regressing, that it should motivate him to do better, be better. Using her achievements as a motivator to step up, follow some dreams and goals of his own. Find some way to make some great strides in personal success as a man and build on your self-confidence instead of using her successes to be a failure in the relationship. If the guy is comfortable with his achievements then I believe that makes a difference too!
What are your views on the matter Reader?
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