ON HER SOAP BOX-QUESTION ?

This column is where I share with you what I am passionate about!

QUESTION...

WHY IS IT THAT...men are " MACK DADDIES" , "PLAYERS" or Self -Proclaimed "DOGS"

(they say this with pride) and ...

WOMEN are WHORES or HO'S ???

Why is there such pride (which is technically NOT a virtue) behind this way of thinking In the first place? I think it stupid that the men, those "WHORE MONGERS", (what they REALLY are), are the ones who create the whores in the first place and mock that which they create!

All of the stories for creating these "whores" are different true enough, but some, many of them came out of the Love 'em and leave em' stages of the "man whores" or whore mongers life.

Many of these women, valued people of society, were rewarded with the great dis-honor of being locker room trash talk, lunchroom bragging and notches on the belts of those who did not deserve their value. The women these men had sex with, could have been very nice, virtuous and even a virgin BEFORE these "DOGS" got a hold of them! That's right I said it! Again I say...YOU DID NOT DESERVE THE WOMAN'S VALUE YOU DOG!

According to my friend D., in her opinion, a lot of men don't realize how much damage they cause the woman when they treat the woman this way. She said, "I think it's a game they play." Not knowing that for most women it's not a game. There are some women players, too! They'll go for married men, take the man from the girlfriend and toss his butt aside when they get him. They'll have sex and move to the next, take his little heart after they wrap it around and stick a shish kabob skewer through it,

"Like he's done'! Next! But even in a man's hurt, lots of times, he's not thinking about the women he's hurt. No! He's just thinking about his own pain.

"I CAN'T BELIEVE SHE DID THIS TO ME" and waiting to unleash the next level of his mess onto the next un-supecting victim because HE'S BEEN HURT!

Some women, it is just a game too for them, but most of us women, we don't want to play no game. We'd rather be alone than go through all of that mess! Unfortunately many of our hearts can't take the sadness of being alone. But I tell you what, WE STILL TRY IT! We join clubs, hang out with our sister girls and every man what come along we dis, for better or worse, until we get to where we need to be inside of ourselves. Now we "good women" now you call "cold hearted, unforgiving, b--ch's!" Yeah! Listen, I have 4 older brothers and I've worked and lived in a man's world all my life, I know what I'm talking about!

A scorned woman is damaged, because the next man that may come along being nice, who may really care for her, he's got to work harder, much harder, and in some cases, much, much harder to break down all the mess YOU created! She may be ruined with anger, frustration and dis-trust. She's through with all of you men! DAMAGED!

Now do you really want to be responsible for creating such havoc in someone else's life. No seriously? I'm asking! Do you hate women that much? Do you hate yourself that much?

To use the precious life and charm that you have been given , using your powers for evil.

um, um, um. What a waste!

What kind of life or social connections do you expect her to have? The wounded woman, that you left behind. Now, there are some women who can just move on like that, but the majority of us, it takes awhile! Some women are SO TRAUMATIZED by "bad guys' selfish actions that they never quite heal. They just go through life not connecting, not having children, not trusting, all because of what...they trusted you! And you have since moved on and don't even remember their name! Um. And off to the next victim you go. Now you are looking at women and saying "Ain't no good women no more" Or if you see a woman with another race of man, now you got a problem with it! But you may just be the one who jacked her up like that!

When a woman gives her body to a man, especially ones she trusts and perhaps maybe even have given her heart and opened her soul up to, ....

She IS REALLY GIVING YOU all that she possesses!

There IS NOTHING more valuable of her own that is more valuable than these! When she shared it with you, letting you in, she was REALLY GIVING YOU THE HONOR of her riches, her body and herself. Some of you repaid her by trash talking and bragging, dumping her even. And oh my gosh, don't let her have honored you with bearing your child, then she REALLY IS STUPID, RIGHT? When actually, YOU or your "boy" is the stupid and dis-illusioned one!

Stupid for not being able to see, nor comprehend the "gift of a woman's love" the has been freely heaped on you, often times without much asked in return. At least nothing much that you shouldn't be able to give back twofold! A woman's body is like a woman's heart...it is most often not freely given to just anyone and it is priceless! Even though this world

has put a price on it. $5.00 for a blow job. That 's right, that's the price for that "crack heads" services. She's just a crack head right? ...

Not a woman, some body's daughter, girlfriend, wife, or maybe she's some child's MOTHER! To you and your boy, she's a nobody, a nothing...a slave to her dependency. A slave for you to continue to and further abuse. As if she don't have problem enough.

NOW LISTEN, before you all get so shocked about what I just said, I've lived in this world all of my 42 years! I have heard and seen many things on the news, on the streets as I pass everyday,

while taking public transportation I've heard many conversations. I've seen in the movies, on the television! Some stuff has even happened in the families of my dear friends, church members and even in my own family! Have you been so sheltered that you, even the suburbs, or in that corporate world of yours, that you are so ignorant to what 's happening with maybe your daughter, sister, mother, Aunt, boss, neighbor, maybe even yourself, you can't even admit it? COME ON, for Christ sake and your own, come on!!!!! Come on down...Get off that blind and ignorant way of living. Open up your mind, stop covering your eyes and look!

Pay attention! And be color blind about the thing because it don't have nothing to do with only the Blacks, Puerto Ricans, Asian or whatever. White Anglos, Europeans, rich, poor, married,

un-married, homo, straights, and both! It also includes the old and the young! COME ON!!!!! Come on down, get down off of your high horse! Employed, un-employed, the boss, the owner and the employee! I see the white men in the neighborhood with their sports cars blowing and calling out them women. I SEE!

The little old ladies who sit on their porches and walk their dogs, see too! THE ONES WHO BABY SAT AND PRAY OVER THEM GIRLS! The ones who fought men like you with they bare hands and lifting of their voices against you! They see too! The men who care about women, for real, also see! I personally know some men in the community who WILL not let you break down the women they know! It'd be some heads rolling!

See people, NOBODY IS LEFT UNCOVERED! SO, COME ON DOWN...COME DOWN OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE AND STOP BEING BLIND and FOOLISH!

Stop being abusive, taking the woman for granted no matter her situation. If you have a decent bone in your body, some strand of morals, some self respect even, realize that YOU DON'T have to add to or become ANY woman's problems. YOU don't have to be that weak one who keeps pimping her out, buying her services, beating her down, sucking the VERY LIFE out of her soul. You don't have to be the one who breaks that "good woman's " heart, with your doggish and selfish ways. You also don't have to keep teaching the younger boys and men these terrible ways either! YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE WHAT LEGACY YOU leave!

How do you REALLY want to be remembered for all time? You can be honest!

Your boys are not around and neither am I. You are sitting at the computer with yourself. No one is around to judge or make snide remarks. Be honest with yourself.

Think about this, WHAT ABOUT your own mother or the woman you really care for?

How would you feel if some man like you, or like the "bad guys", did that to them! You'd be ready to kill somebody, for all the hurt they caused your loved one! UNLESS...YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR MOTHER, THE WOMAN YOU LIKE, YOUR SISTER, DAUGHTER OR THE OWMAN THA TMY BE YORU BEST FRIEND!

This is Meetta signing out.

Sliding aside her soap box... for now!