Now, back to Men Gossip too!
Here is are some examples of the dis-comfort that it has caused
at least in my life recently.
Because I take the bus to and from work, it's about a 25 minute walk from the Bus stop to the door of my job and the back again after work! Some of the men I see regularly, going that way (just as some women do) have offered me a ride to the bus stop. I've taken some of the rides as some of these fellows I recognize and have spoken to. Plus, when I get a ride to the bus stop, I usually can make the first bus, rather than have to wait another 30-45 minutes for the next one, after I've already worked a full days shift! In light of the change in some of the men, the way they have been acting towards me lately, I have refused ALL of their ride offers! I do have one buddy though that comes across more like a doting big brother! Even if I first reject a ride, he always insist looking to protect me by giving me a ride, making sure I get home quickly and safely more than anything! He'll even keep riding until we see a bus, then he lets me off a stop or two ahead of it so as not to miss it. See, he lives completely in the opposite direction so he doesn't offer to take me all the way home. And Yes! he is happily married and we talk about "the Mrs. " all the time! I am looking forward to meeting her some day.
So, it has caused me to re-think some things. I still refuse to accept rides from certain men I work with because I don't know within them, who to have confidence in! I barely speak to any of them outside of working conversations, even in my own department! So, as to not add any fuel to anything some of them may be concocting. One of the fellows who gave me a ride, took me all way home a few times because he and his wife don't live that far from me! I don't do that any more either, even though a car ride home saves me 1 hour in travel time! A car ride home for me is usually only about 20-30 minutes compared to the 1-1/2 to 2 hours that it takes for me to get from the job site to my front door! Considering the facts and adding the walking, the waiting and the fact that it takes me 2 buses each way home and to work, a car ride is quite enjoyable. Maybe, just maybe, my scenario will cause you to have respect for bus riders too!
Though there are thousands of regular bus riders, this is my scenario. See, after getting on the first bus, I ride for 45 minutes. I get off, walk to the second bus stop, stand and wait. Then I ride for another 10-15 minutes and that bus actually lets me off approximately 3 blocks from my apartment. Good thing I am a walker in pretty good health. Whew! After all of this, that is a great big reason why I am in the first place!
And, Oh Yeah! Young men gossip and spread rumors too! There are a few young men who I have overheard say negative things in my presence about me too. " I heard she...." They'll just stare at me if they see me coming or giggle and laugh. WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE? Most of them, I have never worked with and have never even had a conversation with!
See, the thing is, when people start spreading "ugly Talk", it just doesn't STAY within that group of people who are doing the talking, negative stuff, especially, tend to
"take on wings and fly high like birds". Like I said, 'MISERY LOVES COMPANY" so it just drags others in! Again, it takes the attention off of ones' own life and put it onto another.
And people don't care how hurtful what they are saying can be, especially if it is said to someone who is close to the talked about ,maybe even to the the persons child. This happened to my own son! What about when the talk gets back to the person who is being talked about? Which it usually does! At least some of it. Because who can say how much garbage these miserable, monstrous people put out on a daily basis? "Ugly Talk" is quite destructive. I have heard of people quitting jobs, been fired from jobs, people have gotten beat up or been the one who got beat up all because of hurtful things that were said and heavily spread. Many things were found out later to be UN-true!
Whether they were true or not,
every ones business IS NOT YOURS TO KNOW!
"RUMORS, MY FINAL THOUGHTS"....TO FOLLOW
STAY TUNED.....
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