By the way,
MEN SPREAD RUMORS AND GOSSIP TOO! Hmph!
I know men talk this way! Hey! I'm in the public eye most of the time, so I hear things. I work with men! I take public transportation and there is a whole lot of unwanted overhearing of conversations in that area, especially now that cell phone conversations have reach no limit!
Also, I grew up around my 4 older brothers and 6 uncles, (my mothers brothers) and just to mention the fact that I am an intelligent female adult whose lived a full life up to this point and I didn't fall off a turnip truck in the land of Merry Merry! Men refer to what they do between each other as"talking", but they refer to what women do as gossipping! This is a good place to explain what gossip REALLY is!
According to THE MERRIAM-WEBSTER DICTIONARY, New Edition copyright 2004,
Gossip is: rumor or report of intimate facts AND...
A Gossip is a person who HABITUALLY reveals personal or sensational facts;
Talking, simple means:To express in speech: utter words: Speak: etc.
* Still, depending on what you are talking about shapes and transforms the conversation into other things including gossip and rumor spreading.
*Please Note, The gossip they spread DOES NOT constitute as being truth! That brings us to RUMOR. Rumor is:Common Talk: A statement or report current BUT NOT AUTHENTICATED! Do you hear that? Rumors are reports that HAVE NOT BEEN PROVEN! Which means that you cannot trust what you hear and you SHOULD ALWAYS take into account from whom the information is coming! What's their interest or angle on the subject anyhow! Especially considering the damage that can be caused from spreading rumors and gossip! You may never know what the damage to someone is, but you can trust that spreading gossip, especially untruths can cause ALOT OF HARM!
Knowing all of this, that's why I am careful about who I listen to, what I share with others and how I represent myself especially around men! That's why, though I am naturally a very friendly outgoing person now, I recently recognized the need to be very, very cautious about how I greet male employees, ESPECIALLY while on my job! I keep my distance now! See, that's why I don't believe in dating people on the job.
Suppose things don't work out right and your business is all over the place. At a place where you've got to spend much time in the area of years being at facing these people about something that happened in your personal life that they had no business in knowing anyway!
I think that is just asking for trouble and I have not in all my 5 1/2 years on the job dated anyway, nor been open to it! My work life is my work life and my personal business is for home...outside of work! That keeps me from being interested in anyone on my job also!
Still, I would stop and greet certain fellow employees, saying hello! How is the Mrs.? the kids? We'd chit chat a little bit as we go to our designated work areas. I'd wave, if they were too far from me to speak to. You know, just greeting and speaking politely to my co-workers! BUT I greet the women employees the same way! Thing is, something has changed at work so, I don't greet people like I used to, anymore. Especially the men! Like I said, "MEN GOSSIP TOO!" I've noticed that certain older fellows, when they see me coming, will change their conversation or look at me in odd ways. Someone I used to Chit chat with, recently walked past me and dropped his head as he was coming toward me as if trying to avoid me. IT WAS WEIRD!
See, I'm not sure if this is also apart of racial profiling, because ALL of these men are older men of (a different ethnic group). This group of employees occupy a large portion of employee ratio as compared to the percentage of young African-American women employed there, such as myself! Let me just say this, just as there is rumor and gossip everywhere, there is racial prejudice and racial stereo typing EVERY WHERE! So, with that in mind, it's honest to say that it where I work as well! People HAVE their views about certain kinds of people. I do and if you are honest, YOU DO TOO on some level or other! You think you know a person by the way they dress, speak, look or what area they were born in or live in or even BY THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN! You have pre-conditioned ideas of them already swirling around in your head that DOES affect they way you treat people! Come on you know it!
Still, I would stop and greet certain fellow employees, saying hello! How is the Mrs.? the kids? We'd chit chat a little bit as we go to our designated work areas. I'd wave, if they were too far from me to speak to. You know, just greeting and speaking politely to my co-workers! BUT I greet the women employees the same way! Thing is, something has changed at work so, I don't greet people like I used to, anymore. Especially the men! Like I said, "MEN GOSSIP TOO!" I've noticed that certain older fellows, when they see me coming, will change their conversation or look at me in odd ways. Someone I used to Chit chat with, recently walked past me and dropped his head as he was coming toward me as if trying to avoid me. IT WAS WEIRD!
See, I'm not sure if this is also apart of racial profiling, because ALL of these men are older men of (a different ethnic group). This group of employees occupy a large portion of employee ratio as compared to the percentage of young African-American women employed there, such as myself! Let me just say this, just as there is rumor and gossip everywhere, there is racial prejudice and racial stereo typing EVERY WHERE! So, with that in mind, it's honest to say that it where I work as well! People HAVE their views about certain kinds of people. I do and if you are honest, YOU DO TOO on some level or other! You think you know a person by the way they dress, speak, look or what area they were born in or live in or even BY THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN! You have pre-conditioned ideas of them already swirling around in your head that DOES affect they way you treat people! Come on you know it!
*Check out my article in "SOCIAL SCENE...RACIAL PROFILING" coming soon
"MEETTA TALKS, Rumors!" Pt. 4 last part of Series... Stay Tuned.
TO BE CONTINUED
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