(I'm re-posting this series on this subject, as I've found it necessary.)
...Are at work in the bathroom, staff room, employee dining room, hallway and even in the parking lot! Rumors and gossip are at the time clock while punching in and punching out! IT'S IN THE MANAGERS OFFICES! Rumors and gossip saturate and permeate the work place! It's in your apartment building, at home, with people calling on the phone to want spread the latest "news", etc.. You can't out run it!
I don't believe most people when they say, "he say , she day, don't bother me!". You know it does! That is why some of those people have shared their frustrations about it with me, with you or maybe your the person that is sharing their frustration! Just like I am sharing mine with you now, Reader. So , those people need to stop lying and deal with their feelings about it, just as I found I needed to!
AHH! Now where was I? Ah Yes!
Let's start with RUMORS AGAIN! OOH! Somebody just cringed.
Rumors are nasty little things that just keep on growing like weeds in a garden! You break them off, you stomp on them, because you are always trying to figure out how to kill them dead, but you find that up-rooting them or killing the root is the only way! Sometimes, you do have to approach the person who you know are spreading hurtful things about you , but does that ever really stop them? Sometimes it does! You can say a thing to a person in a real and intelligent manner and get their attention. You can say a thing that hits them right where they live and stop them in their tracks! So, sometimes talking does help! Other times though, not so much. During those times is really when you have to concentrate on yourself, how you choose to deal with it inside of yourself. So, here I share some of my thoughts on how I view and deal with the rumor mill and those that create it.
AHH! Now where was I? Ah Yes!
Let's start with RUMORS AGAIN! OOH! Somebody just cringed.
Rumors are nasty little things that just keep on growing like weeds in a garden! You break them off, you stomp on them, because you are always trying to figure out how to kill them dead, but you find that up-rooting them or killing the root is the only way! Sometimes, you do have to approach the person who you know are spreading hurtful things about you , but does that ever really stop them? Sometimes it does! You can say a thing to a person in a real and intelligent manner and get their attention. You can say a thing that hits them right where they live and stop them in their tracks! So, sometimes talking does help! Other times though, not so much. During those times is really when you have to concentrate on yourself, how you choose to deal with it inside of yourself. So, here I share some of my thoughts on how I view and deal with the rumor mill and those that create it.
Rumors are USUALLY spread by unknowing, and often, miserable people who are unhappy or disillusioned about there own lives! So, they turn their attention on to you and others! My advice is to not take it personal. Instead, HAVE MERCY on the little...sad sack of a man or woman that are spreading them!
Their lives are really SO PATHETICALLY UNFULFILLED that they need to do this rather than take their focus and put it back on THEIR OWN LIVES! Remember, Happy or joyful people (and there is a difference)...
Their lives are really SO PATHETICALLY UNFULFILLED that they need to do this rather than take their focus and put it back on THEIR OWN LIVES! Remember, Happy or joyful people (and there is a difference)...
ARE NOT interested in sharing crap! They are usually the ones that are smiling regularly, wanting to share positive things about life with you and every one in their presence! They want to focus on the good and bring that to your life as well.
Negative people on the other hand, want you to share in their negativity, because that is all they have to offer you and themselves. "Misery loves company!" Have you ever heard that saying? Well, JOY does too! Joy loves to be spread! But it's up to you to choose which one you'd prefer in your life!
Reader, I know by now that you have figured out that I have once again found myself to be the center target for "the rumor and gossip club." You are right! So, remembering what my Pastor once told me, "If they are talking negatively about you AND you haven't done anything to warrant the negative talk, especially as a believer in Christ, you must be doing something right!" Because people of little understanding and knowledge about Character cannot justify things "doing good unto evil", they think something is wrong with me! They don't understand why I try to love my enemies, greeting them in a positive manner and even have a friendly conversation with them at times. Oh ! I KNOW they don't like me, smile in my face and talk behind my back and I was not always completely out of ear shot! Still, I refuse to be like them or let them change my positive behavior. It's get hard sometimes, but I endure determined not to be like them! Then, it helps to have the kind of people in my life that care about me without limit, my family, (particularly my son) and my "REAL FRIENDS" to help keep me on track for the journey that life is! I am grateful that I have learned some things from this time.
Reader, I know by now that you have figured out that I have once again found myself to be the center target for "the rumor and gossip club." You are right! So, remembering what my Pastor once told me, "If they are talking negatively about you AND you haven't done anything to warrant the negative talk, especially as a believer in Christ, you must be doing something right!" Because people of little understanding and knowledge about Character cannot justify things "doing good unto evil", they think something is wrong with me! They don't understand why I try to love my enemies, greeting them in a positive manner and even have a friendly conversation with them at times. Oh ! I KNOW they don't like me, smile in my face and talk behind my back and I was not always completely out of ear shot! Still, I refuse to be like them or let them change my positive behavior. It's get hard sometimes, but I endure determined not to be like them! Then, it helps to have the kind of people in my life that care about me without limit, my family, (particularly my son) and my "REAL FRIENDS" to help keep me on track for the journey that life is! I am grateful that I have learned some things from this time.
"Meetta Talks, Rumors" A Special Series
To Be continued Stay Tuned!
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