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Something that saddens me.
It's lonely and tough enough in a world where there are so many people. It's even worse knowing that many connections between us are not being made, when they so easily could be! So much added negativity and stress when their could be peace and unity. When it comes to connecting with and knowing people, many of us like to play it "safe". We stay to the outside,
we always have our guards up, we won't even let family and others get to too close to us really. Why?
In this vast world, though we could really be enjoying the full scope of relationships with people, for different reasons we choose not to! Unfortunately, we are a generation full of people who enjoy "glimpses" and "sound bItes". We collect these glimpses and sound bytes by watching lives from the outside rather than connecting and knowing them form the inside. Based on our limited information, we still manage to form opinions and many times, wrongly so. We often do this, but not even realizing what we are doing!
By natural design, humans need to be connected, but many of us don't know how to do that. That makes me sad, for myself and for others. We want to know people, but only just enough! We don't understand how much we are truly missing by denying ourselves the opportunity and gift of truly getting to know some people. So many gifts, talents, interesting world views and friendships we let pass us by unknowingly. As human beings, we want to understand each other, and feel wanted. We have that innate desire to feel this way. We honestly want more companionship, but we choose to remain on the outside getting frustrated because "we just don't understand" (really its, we don't want to accept) the way others are. Despite this knowledge, even when it's brought to our attention, we choose to remain in our own little comfortable bubble, but still wanting to know what's on the outside of it!
Have you experienced adults, Grown people, eaves dropping or "butting in" on your conversations with others when they weren't invite to do so?
What about when they ask odd, quick questions right out of the blue or make snide remarks, saying them quickly or low cause the think they know you when really on the inside they know they don't? But they want to know about you, but without really having to know you!
Then why care? My thing is, I must be important for someone to want to know me in ANY capacity! Especially to those who spend time choosing to take negative direction in doing so! I must be fascinating on some level! Too bad we don't invest enough POSITIVE ENERGY in people.
It's a dilemma why so many of us choose to live this way. Want to know someone, or what's what's going on with them?
Then invest the time and genuine interest to do so!
But many, many people don't want to do that! They prefer to be "glimpsers" and "sound biters" reaping only bits of pieces of someone. Which just about amounts to them being C.C.'s (chaos Creators) especially when they spread their edited, ideas about someone onto anybody with a listening ear! And alot of times the people they are telling their tainted opinions about, don't even know the person they are talking about or even have met them! Thus, Chaos Creating because now you have someone disliking some unknown person to them because of what you said in your limited knowledge of that person, spreading negativity rather than love! I've found this kind of behaviour to be very true among controlling and miserable people. I've had my share of dealings.
That is what lead me to become sad. Sad about myself or anybody wanting to be accepted and have to endure such things ! Though many of us have gone through such things as I have mentioned. There is so much more to a person than just the sound bites or glimpses people get when they stand on the outside looking in, even thought they really don't have to. If you are not going to invest in someone who apparently has your interest, then find some other way to spend your thoughts rather than focusing on somebody you really have no interest in knowing! It will make you crazy concerning yourself needlessly what that person is doing? What's going on in their life? Where do they go? or How do they spend their time? Concern yourselves with YOUR life, what you are doing, what's going on in your life, where you go, and how you spend your time?
Glimpsers, Sound biters & Chaos Creators! Hmph!
Still, people enjoy the glimpses and sound bites. They're easy and "safe", if you will.
Relationships take work and our generation are full of lazy, selfish, high minded, judgemental people! Why would they invest in relationships, friendships etc. that they don't necessarily want anyway! Right? Yeah!
What is the REAL REASON? I wonder.
Maybe it's because they think the person is not worth getting to know. Thereby causing the glimpser, etc. to seem haughty, over-valuing themselves while under-valuing the other person!
Or could it be they genuinely don't want to get attached. Maybe they think they can have the same viewpoint at a distance that they can have if the invested themselves, but without the work. Or perhaps, they are afraid of what they may discover about themselves while getting to know you! Hmm? On the other hand, some people like just like the bubbles they live in. They're comfortable!
My mind is buzzing with something my son has said to me, several times in these last few months. You never think your kid gets it then WHAMMO! They tell you something that makes you think they are alright people! What my son said to me both saddened me and made me know that I was loved and appreciated.
My son said to me, "Mom, you challenge people!" You know people have told you that themselves, even a couple of Pastors that I remember! Sometimes it meant a good thing, sometimes not! Others, for whatever reason never told you and never will, but it's obvious. They are the ones who stay on the outside of your life, afraid or unwilling to come in and find out who you really are. They are comfortable in their own circle, but you are interesting so they pay attention. IF YOU WEREN'T a challenge, THEY WOULDN'T PAY YOU ANY ATTENTION OR SPEND TIME TALKING ABOUT YOU. MOM, THERE IS SOMETHING AMAZING ABOUT YOU THAT GETS PEOPLES' ATTENTION. Unfortunately, both negative and positive. Don't try to figure it out. just be you and keep being you, for better or worse."
He went on to say, "I hate to see you sad and hurting. If know you want to be accepted, but you rare just not by many of those you want to accept you! SO ACCEPT THAT! Unfortunately, they never really come to know the truth about you and you hurt over it STOP IT! You are not at all what some people think you are or should be! There is something powerful about you that many people can't, want to or know how to deal with. That thing, whatever it is, your strength, your passion, your experiences in life and the way you speak about those things. "
"You are strong, you go through tough things, get knocked down, but you get back up. You hope! You dream and push on. YOU are strong! You have your own mind and there are people that don't like that about you. They don't understand that your life has called for you to be that way. They think it a burden, but for you, it's survival! They want you or expect you to be a certain way and when they find out you aren't like that and refuse to let them have their way in your life, they back away. Don't take that onto yourself, when really it's them they should be having issues with! No you're not perfect. You've made alot of mistakes, but who hasn't? The thing is, you hurt over them though! They don't know this and so you remain a strange to thing to them."
"Mom, I've seen people treat you bad when you didn't deserve it. You don't know it, but I watch AND LISTEN! I'm your son and I've heard people talk about you (when they thought I couldn't hear them or paying attention). When I heard them and a how they treated you, how they acted and what they were saying, showed me they didn't really know you. They don't care to know you! Yeah you say some things you shouldn't and you can be stubborn annoyingly so! But you still don't deserve to be dogged out! I've seen you be nice to people and they turn around and be mean or act strange. I think they take it out on you, because they don't want to face the truth about themselves...whatever that is!"
MISERY.
Miserable people, somehow manage to infiltrate our lives, don't' they?
Good thing many people come in our lives for a "season" lest we all be miserable!
Here for awhile and gone somewhere else in the next.
It saddens me that anyone experiences that much that misery in the first place! And that that they find it hard to appreciate another God given Life...for WHATEVER REASON!
Life is already hard enough! We have to live on this planet together somehow!
Let's make the best of it people! Gees!
LEARN TO LIVE IN PEACE, PEOPLE!
Even with just yourself at first!
Peace, just like misery, will spread like wildfire!
Peace is just as note worthy, but is more welcomed and comes with greater rewards!
