Investigating the philosophy of...
I COME...I GO!
"I Come (to work), be pleasant while I am there, do my job and... I go home!"
I have heard this philosophy from readers of my blog posts over and over again!
Some people have said to me, "I DON'T GO TO EMPLOYEE HOUSE PARTIES, BB Q'S or hang out with many of my co-workers or in any situation OUTSIDE OF WORK!"
They say, "I come...and I go!" They say that it keeps down the chaos in their work lives!
Because of all the crap that people bring to work, some workers prefer to just be left alone and go their merry way! They don't socialize at other co-workers houses. They don' get caught up in the outside of work-activities of other employees. Readers have also said,
"I don't take their (my co-workers) mess home with me ."
"I am not interested in having relationships with people at work. " I prefer to just be able and allowed to do my job." One reader said specifically that, "I (she) have established personal relationships and have a strong family circle, I don't need that (those kind of relationships) here (on the job). I don't confide anything personal or deep with them. People talk too much at work!"
Oh Yes! Most of the readers that commented also mentioned that IT IS important in being "polite" or "hospitable" with their co-workers, no matter what their position! But still maintained that they found it "NECESSARY " to keep their lives separate.
Starting at the beginning of the year,
I, myself, personally adopted that philosophy, because...
I too found it "necessary" to keep my life separate.
I go to work, do my job, listen, I give respect where it's due and ...I GO HOME!
Some of my co-workers commented on how fast I move out of the way when it's time to go!
I don't hang around for conversations with certain people. I leave the rumor mill behind every single day! I don't want to hear who said what, about ANYBODY! While at work, outside of conversations directly related to the job, I don't keep up chatter with too many people anymore! I certainly don't mingle with people I KNOW have been cruel or mean to me or anyone I know! I am never mean, I just simply leave them doing what they do, even if I pass them in the hallway etc.. I don't entertain cruel or gossipping people! I also don't entertain people I don't have anything in common with!
Oh! I can work very well with anybody! I just keep it work related!
Unwarranted conversations and relations just add too much crap to the work environment and I don't want to be apart of that in anyway! And that should be OK! But, for many people it's not OK because their focus is not just on the job, it obviously extends to them wanting something else out of their work environment and their co-workers.
So, NOW that I have been adopting this attitude of "I come...do my job...be pleasant while I'm there ...and go home...I get talked about even MORE! People are saying I have changed. Because I just don't "smile and wave' showing that bubbly, tolerant (passive) side of me people have said that I'm "mean" now! Even though I don't lash out. I just "Come and go"! They say "Something must be wrong with Meetta!" Someone on my job, came to me and said,"people have come to me and said they've noticed a change in you and asked ME what's wrong with you ."
OH, I AM SO LAUGHING RIGHT NOW!
Think about that Reader, if they are so concerned about me,
Why are they asking someone else about me? Why not ask ME about ME? Seriously folks, come on!
Because I don't speak so freely in conversation anymore, (being cautious of the rumor mill, for one thing) people are asking questions.
Some of the people he's talking about have much to do with the rumor mill.
They are just being nosey! So for that, yeah, I have changed!
And in any case, the person, that their asking about me, He doesn't know me like that! I hardly ever even see the man let alone have a conversation with him!
People have other things to do... IT'S CALLED WORK PEOPLE!
Here's something else, another person actually said to me a few months back, "People are concerned about you BECAUSE YOU DON'T SMILE AND WAVE when you come in, like you used to! We're just not used to that about you."
Keep in mind that this is the same person who told me way back that "You have that personality that people love and gravitate to. You're, just so BUBBLY! YOU KNOW HOW TO BE A FOOL." I was looking her in her face when she when she said it so, I know she meant that as a compliment.
Because I am a story teller, I work very hard at how I accomplish my job!
I am very animated, using my voice, face, hands and body language to "paint a picture" for the guests. I put much effort in the way I get my my point across, making sure that the guests understand and "FEEL" what I am trying to convey! There is great passion in the way I tell a story. Still, all of what that person said, didn't sound so great the way that it came out
of her mouth. Especially considering the fact that she said it to me, in front of 2 new employees (newbies) who had no idea of my work ability nor where this person was coming from when
she let those words form. After she had gone, the 'newbies" and I spoke briefly and they commented on what that person said. They were very embarrassed for me because of all the things she said, All they heard was "MEETTA IS A FOOL!"
So now, putting all this into perspective, why so much concern about my waving and smiling is starting to make some serious sense. Some of my co-workers view me as undeniably talented worker, with a bubbly, foolish personality, but not a person to be taken seriously! HMM. So because I no longer seem "bubbly" and "foolish", showing my more serious side, They don't know how to take me! I GET IT!
Reader...
It's not like they are complaining to me about my abilities on the job or bad things like insulting guests. They can't say that because I don't cause problems like that! Their concern is about THEMSELVES really! I don't come in waving and smiling making them feel better!
While smiling is wonderful, to much emphasis people...too much emphasis!
Geez, come on! I wonder what would happen if they "Waved and smiled" for themselves!
Anyway, why are people always looking for someone else to make them feel better?
"Make your own selves happy!
Nothing changed about me, I'm still the same person!
Obviously they never really were interested in what was underneath all that waving and smiling! So superficial, I tell ya!
That is the type of thing that continues to change the work atmosphere for me.
A "real friend" of mine who is also a co-worker thinks this has a lot to do with the fact that some of those employees don't realize I am intelligent, deep thinking, thoughtful person with great creative ability that include engaging people, story telling , acting and writing! I have concerns and very deep thoughts as you can see from my writings. I have a lot going for myself! In 5 1/2 years, for all of the interest in me, some of these people still have not figured that out! But is that MY problem?
Now, "I come... and I go."
I have a family, goals and dreams. I have friends outside of work! There are some things that are just deep and wonderful about me! For being on the job, they put too much emphasis on my waving and smiling. I do have this reputation of being able to strike up a conversation with anyone at the drop of a hat! I usually, thoroughly enjoy people! I love meeting new people because they each have a story, who are they? Where do they come from? Each person has interesting experiences to share. I love meeting new people! That's a major reason why
I am good at my job! I don't want to smile and talk all of the time to my co-workers!
I speak for a living and I prefer to give what I have, mostly to the guests!
That's why I'm there folks! AND IT SHOWS IN MY WORK!
See, I have my quiet moments too! Need to have that! Internal peace is a necessary part of healthy living mind and body! The concern was for my lack of showing my "bubbly" side (as one co-worker said to me) is just too ridiculous to me. People have told me, "when I would see you come in, waving and smiling, you made me feel better." Want to be happy, why can't they make themselves happy instead of wanting me to provide that for them in some way! So, I don't always feel like waving and smiling.
OY VEY!
That reminds me...One of my Readers also said, "WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST COME TO WORK, DO THEIR JOB AND LET YOU DO YOURS? I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT!"
That Reader also said, "SEE, THAT'S WHY I COME.... AND I GO!
What the hell? That is exactly what that is! Hellish that people pay more attention to me smiling and waving and make a big deal out of it, asking the someone else, what's wrong with me? P-SHAW! Why can't they see that there is more to me like when I am being serious, speaking intelligently on something important like...work!
People can be so superficial.
Now they say, SOMETHING MUST BE WRONG WITH ME!
(I am laughing out loud right now!)...
WELL, YEAH!... The negative atmosphere that was allowed to take over the work place. I used to ABSOLUTELY enjoy working where I work! That has somewhat changed. So many people have allowed their personal miseries to infiltrate so many others. Let me just come... and go!
SEE YOU LATER, READER!
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