Thanks for joining me in this weeks column of "Social Scene" as we continue to further investigate social issues that continually plague us.
IN SOCIETY, many problems including criminal activity, happen for many different reasons. Bullying, domestic violence, child abuse, racism. The usual suspect behind these activities is anger. Although, like I side, other reasons a re involved as well, such as jealousy, envy, lying. Usually it all ends up with anger touting those other issues on its back. And often times, not much is done about the anger issues get out of control.
You may be thinking well, I can't see how anger plays a major part in all of this behavior. But somehow, it manages to rear its ugly head. In bullying, and racism, there are esteem, emotional, superiority issues involved. Thinking someone else is worthless because the bully or the racist may view themselves worthless with something to prove. Then again, many of these people may think that they are better than someone else, because of finances, lineage, background, educational opportunities or just plain ignorance of false teachings. Whatever the case, these thoughts can create a great deal of frustration and frustration often leads to emotional imbalance, which can anger. In any case, anger can be controlled. There are many ways to do this, but first you have to understand anger.
IN UNDERSTANDING ANGER, I present to you a small bit of information to help stimulate your desire for more information on this subject. As anger is a common part of our humanistic emotional makeup, we should be very mindful of it in our lives as it has a tendency to get out of control. There is no "sin" in being angry, its what you do with that anger that counts!
Many times, our anger does not turn into physical destruction, but something even more destructive and lasting! Our anger can cause emotional situations that may prove to have a very damaging affect. fro example, when people are angry, we often say things that can"kill" or create greater conflict just as well! And usually when a person says things hastily, in anger, it almost always inevitably causes regret and causes irreconcilable situations. "SHUT UP!",
"I WISH YOU WERE DEAD", "YOU'RE NOTHING TO ME". "YOU'RE STUPID", "I HATE YOU!" I DON'T LOVE YOU!" "YOU'RE GARBAGE!". "YOU'LL NEVER BE ANYTHING!" etc. etc. I know you see my point Dear Reader.
Therefore, though you may not see yourselves as one to "lose their temper" and go one to cause societal problems with it, keep our anger in check, recognizing uncontrolled anger can cause a multitude of problems. So, recognize that keeping your anger in check, is your own responsibility. We owe that to ourselves and others around us. I would agree that understanding anger is a practice that we all should implicate in our lives!
THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION IS PROVIDED BY A LOCAL DETROIT METROPOLITAN AREA HOSPITAL.
UNDERSTANDING ANGER
"Anger...
is an emotional cue which reminds us what we like and what we don't like. Although many of use were taught as children to stifle our anger, it is in fact perfectly natural. Anger can have many causes, but its effects depend on your ability to deal with it. Learn to understand anger, the effects of denial and blame placing. Learn to understand the positive results that can come from accepting your own anger.
CAUSES OF ANGER
"You cut your self shaving. You burned the toast. You can't find the keys. Now the care wont' stare and you will be late for work! No one did these things to you! They just happened (often due to poor planning of time management and multi-tasking). If you ask others, you will find that such "disasters" are quite common and that they make almost everyone angry! (*Please note: Nothing and no one can make you angry, you choose to be angry!) We feel anger when we sense we've lost control or when we feel vulnerable or afraid. We all have these feelings sometimes, and some of us are more easily irritated and annoyed than others.
DENYING ANGER
Many times, we want to deny that we are angry because we are not in the habit of admitting it. It could be that anger doesn't seem rational to us, or we are embarrassed by our lack of control. All humans feel anger, whether it is expressed or not. Thus, by denying anger, you deny that you are human.
BLAME-PLACING
Sometimes, we want to blame others for our anger, even if it seems unjust. Some people do this regularly as a habit. People generally don't like to be around blame-placers because they never know if they are going to be next in line to be blamed for something.
ACCEPTING ANGER
By recognizing and accepting our own anger, we' re on the road to controlling it and releasing it responsibly. Acknowledging what makes us angry, instead of denying anger or placing blame, leads to self-understanding. Once we can identify some common anger-making situation, we can change them, deal with them responsibly or make a conscious choice to ignore them. We can then reap the benefits of what this emotion tells us.
"As we all experience anger at some point in our lives,
UNDERSTANDING ANGER ...
will help you understand you, better!
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