Many women say....
... they want a man! They say that they want to be married?
Some women even have a list of characteristics they want in the man.
Some women even take this list to God in Prayer! Nothing wrong with that!
He says in his word to come to him and pray, that he might hear. God wants to give you the desires of your heart, especially if you are living the life he directs you to live, through the knowledge of him as directed by his "Holy Word!"
If you are one of these women I've just described, let me first say that I agree, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting these things! Not that you need my OK! But here is a question for you. No need to answer out loud or get violent! I'm just asking! Remember, I too am a woman! I am also wanting the "best mate" for me, somewhere in my future, when God knows I am ready! But, How can I expect God to give me "one of his best", when I am not MY best? So, for now though,
my focus is elsewhere. There is preparation to be done and I'm not talking about saving money for some big wedding. I'm talking about preparation of one's self! Not just to get a man, but that area of a woman's life is what the topic of discussion includes today!
So, here is the question.
HAVE YOU OR ARE YOU PREPARING YOURSELF?
Sister Girls...Women... before you come down on me and start muttering things like...
"Why should I have to prepare?" "You saying, I should change?"
"He should just take me as I am and if he can't, then he can just go on with his sorry #%&&*."
Sisters, after you get back from your trip,
('cause you are tripping!) I'll be right here!............................ ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ............. Are you ready to discuss this now?
The thing is, there are many of us who want SO MUCH in a man, but WE REFUSE to be that which will attract THAT KIND OF PERSON! We don't want to do the work! Yes! Women, you know it takes work! For right now though, think about your "DREAM MAN".
Think about the things you want in him.
He's sane and can be trusted. He's not a criminal! He's respectable. He has great friends! He's a fabulous dresser! He has an AMAZING physically fit body! He's kind, caring and helpful. He smells good! He's well groomed and clean. He's well spoken, educated as well as street smart. He's supportive of your dreams and desires. He's fun, chivalrous, kind, passionate. He's fun! He's productive.
He's strong and "manly", but not too manly! Just enough. He's a protector! He respects his elders! He loves his parents, honors his mother, grandmother like Queens.
Provides for, spends time with his kids, (ALL his kids!) He Loves kids!
He's heterosexual AND monogamous AND he loves you with a passion!
More about some of your "dream men". He...Oh! Let's not forget the wealthy part. He's wealthy, family money or a Self-Made man (or at least working and earning a good wage). He owns his own home, a successful business, a property owner. He's patient, non-abusive. He can afford to take trips, without going broke! You want him to be able to purchase you gifts. Nice gifts! Take you out to nice places to eat. You want him to maybe be a doctor, lawyer, preacher, a man who has power! A man and who knows how to talk to anyone, at any time, from the little guy to major power brokers from Detroit, to New York to Japan! Your dream man may include, knowing when you hurt before you admit it! You want him to be "in tune" to you and your desires, to be aware! You want someone who can give you the material things as well as please you emotionally and sexually.
I know this is a lot to fit in one man, but knowing women as I do, I am sure you have more traits that each of you could add to your "dream man." OK, So That's done!
OK! NOW LET 'S THINK ABOUT YOU!
Women, think about you, right where you are in your life!
Don't think about who you want to become, but who you are now!
Now match it up to the ideals of your Dream Man.
Does the "truth" of who you are, measure up to everything you want
AND "NEED" in him?
Be honest with yourself! No one is around and I CANT HEAR YOU!
I CAN'T EVEN SEE YOU!
If the you, you are now, matches to your ideal mate...then great!
If it doesn't, then you are the ones I am talking to when I ask the question "Have you prepared yourself for the man of your desires?
You should know becoming that person, takes work! For example; You want him well groomed, what about razor blading them hairy legs of yours and waxing in places I can't mention on this family oriented blog. What about doing your hair regularly wearing clean clothes, clipping those toe nails...BATHING? No Sister Girls, every woman does NOT BATHE regularly! Maybe you've, like me have been on the bus, at work bus or in a crowded place and noticed this? What about when you go into a public ladies rest room? Yikes! MY GOD! What creature crawled up and died in there??? For REAL!! Don't be shocked! I've even seen business women at work and other places of business, come out and NOT WASH THEIR HANDS before they left THE RESTROOM. I've seen women do this EVEN IN restaurant restrooms!
Changing bad habits, it takes work! Still, we want that "Dream Man."
What about this?...
You want him to be productive but, you're not doing anything! You don't work, you don't go to school, or volunteer! You're not really active at home and you are well and able!
You want him physically fit, but YOU ARE REALLY NOT!
You don't exercise! You ARE NOT EVEN TRYING to eat healthier!
You want that "Man of faith"...
that Man of God, but you are not a woman of faith or a woman of God, yourself!
Still, you want your "Dream Man". IT TAKES WORK!
Many of us want our education, a business, have ownership of some property including owning our own homes! We want our own bank accounts, solidifying our own financial freedom!
Then there are those of us, who are working on our character! We care about being women of integrity, truth, virtue and wisdom! We are working on shedding some of the flaws that have been holding us back. Some women are valuing themselves more, not giving themselves away sexually, so freely, as they did before! THAT'S GROWTH! For a lot of us, there are other things that we don't like about ourselves. We know those things keep us from being our "BEST SELVES!" Some of us are just taking time to let our broken hearts heal and getting our minds right from "other stuff."
Like Queen Esther who had to go through capture, a ritual of beauty treatments, healthy eating and etiquette. Though her situation was not ideal, she had to learn to handle herself well, throughout that entire situation! She needed to know protocol. Just to mention, there were hundreds of other beautiful young virgin women vying for the king. It is believed they were the most fair (beautiful) in all of Persia, gathered at the palace for the king to choose a new queen from. Above all of them though, Esther was chosen!
HER BACKGROUND WAS NO EXCUSE!
If you came from bad experiences, don't keep holding onto your past or background. Let it go! Your future is still ahead of you! YOU ARE GREAT and FULL OF POTENTIAL! GREAT THINGS ARE IN YOU!
DON'T FORGET THAT!
Esther had grown up as an orphan, living with her older male cousin, a scholar. She grew in intellect and of the world around her! She knew in detail and could discuss topics that concerned mostly the men of her day. She could intelligently speak on subjects that even concerned a king! She stood toe to toe with her husband, the king and some of his "men of war" when it came to the politics and fate of Persia. She had something that the other women did not. And THAT THING, got her chosen as the Queen!
Esther understood the importance of God to her people. That was extremely important, especially in faith as a Jewish person! She had great compassion for people. She also had idealistic, naive views, being a young woman. She wanted to run off with her best friend, before she was rounded up with for the gathering of the young women to be taken to the palace.
What is it that you have, that sets you aside from all the rest of the women? You're thinking what qualifies him for you, but what qualifies you for him?
God actually was preparing Esther in her previous years, BEFORE she came to the palace! She was raised as a learned, knowledgeable, humble, sensitive, creative, productive person. She was being prepared for more than JUST A MAN, but he was a MAJOR PART of the scenario!
Now put your name in the place of Esther's! Because she represents what we are talking about... preparing yourself! Being well ready to seize opportunities.
Women, HOW HAVE YOU PREPARED YOURSELF FOR THE MAN YOU DESIRE?
Women, are you ready and in the position in your life, to be in your desired position in his life?
Remember, that men have ideas about the type of woman
they want by their side too!
Sisters, what can you bring to the table?
This is Meetta. I'm out!
I know you are glad this article is over.
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