FOR WOMEN ONLY!- WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?

Sister Girls, Welcome back!

If you've been keeping up with this column or read my last "For Women Only" article on "Have you prepared yourself ?" posted on March 9, 2010. You won't be surprised at this question, I'm about to ask you....

WOMEN,

"WHAT ARE YOU WORTH"?

Can you even put a value on you?

Does the price of you include"-

...A large soda and extra value fries with that combo meal?

Does the price of you include~

...houses, cars, rings or getting your bills paid?

Does the price of you include a $20.00~

...hotel room and a $5.00 meal box from KFC?

Does the price of you include all the drugs, booze, sex and

trouble you can get?

Come on, tell it...WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?

A guy took you to the movies and bought you the super deluxe popcorn meal then he ate half of it and even drank out of your soda, using your straw! He seemed like a nice enough guy, so you went out with him again giving him the benefit of the doubt. You know the guy is selfish from the popcorn fiasco at the movies! You know something else is fishy about him too, but you press on. In his defense, You tell yourself,

"Everybody has flaws, even me. No body's perfect".

So you cut the guy some slack, you go out with him again, hoping for the best." Maybe he this time, he splurged and took you for a sit down breakfast at I-hop. "Order anything you want", he says. You settle into the booth, he starts telling jokes. Your food comes. You and he spend the next hour talking like high schoolers. You begin to let your guard down a bit more. You are feeling comfortable, you're both laughing, you are enjoying yourself. So, you start to relax!

You are now thinking, "Eh, he's not so bad." Then just as suddenly that thought vanished from your mind, it gets eerily quiet between you two, but just for a moment, (like the calm before storm) then all of a sudden he speaks! And in a deep serious voice, leaning in just a bit, staring in your eyes, he confidently asks you this question,

"SO WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO...LET ME HIT IT?"

HUH! Your ears can't believe what they heard! They're starting to ring from the shock! Your eyes can't believe what they are seeing because he's still sitting there, grinning and without shame! See, he knows, you know, what he just asked you! And he's really waiting on a response from you! He's asking, because he thinks he has earned the right! He's asking because your value to him, compares to that cheap pancake house breakfast special, he just bought you! He's asking you this because he's thinking, "She don't know what she's really worth! And now he's saying to you, "I think I deserve your best!"

For those of you who are still not understanding what the man is saying, the man is asking, "

WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO LET ME HAVE SEX WITH YOU ?

See, I knooooowww! Sister Girls, I know!

These fools need to be put on an island and just left there until they grow a brain, a heart or something that will help create something that resembles a caring human being! But you want to know what the worst part about this is, my lovely, dear, beautiful, blessed Sister Girls? The worst part is that some, many of you devalue yourselves so much, and you have even been conditioned to think so little of yourselves that

you think you owe the man this! So you have sex with the man.

MY GOD, FATHER IN HEAVEN!

Sister Girls! Slap yourself and WAKE UP!

Realize that you just sold yourself as a prostitute, for a cheap discount breakfast!

Some of you just got mad at me, but hold on a minute! Let me explain myself more clearly.

The definition of a prostitute: a person, male or female, that exchanges sex for money, services, material items. In this case, it was a breakfast, dinner or a movie!

You may not have thought about it that way, but that's what it is!

So, before you say , "UH, UH. I'm not a prostitute. I don't stand out on the street corner selling myself." Think about what just happened, according to the definition, you just prostituted yourself!

Even though you are an upstanding woman, "not a lady of the night,". This guy was a date, not a "John" purchasing sex out in some un-seemingly place! But the act of prostitution, purchasing and exchanging sex, is what just went down between you two!

You might not have thought about it that way, my Dear upstanding Sister Girls, but actions speak louder than word and it is, what it is! He took you out and then afterwards asked you for or expected sex from you AND YOU GAVE IT TO HIM, without any commitment! YOU'RE NOT MARRIED TO HIM! Eve if he becomes your boyfriend, you end up living together, he's paying all of the bills, taking care of you...still, according to the definition of a prostitute....IF YOU ARE HAVING SEX WITH him, even under the guise of calling it Love or whatever else you are calling it (you are exchanging sex for money, services or material gain, be it jewelry, house, cars etc.) you are a prostitute!

A glorified one (as his girlfriend), but you are still a prostitute!

Remember, even if you are engaged....you are still NOT HIS WIFE...yet! And if you are fortunate to at least have his forthcoming promise of marriage, then good for you!

May I still recommend though, that you wait until he "puts a ring on it!" Even if you have already engaged in sexual activity, stop and cause him to have to make a respectable woman out of you. If he truly loves you, he will honor your request. 'Cause for now, for all intents and purposes, you are still a glorified Prostitute!

And for the rest of us women...Sister Girls

...SLAP YOURSELF AND WAKE UP!...WAKE UP!

YOU AWAKE? Good, NOW LISTEN TO ME, LOVE ON YOU!

STOP giving away your best self to someone who is NOT your husband!

STOP "selling" yourself for a date of music, food and fun!

YOU are magnificent! YOU are rare! YOU are fabulous!

You are special! YOU, are like no other!

God made you! GOD purposed you for great things!

Still, you think so little of yourselves!

Of all the millions of baby girls who didn't make it!

YOU made it!

Women, understand that your wealth should not be given away so freely!

The only thing you really have in this life is your body and mind! These are really all that you have that belongs to you and to you alone! So, shouldn't you consider your only asset to be valuable? How can you put a price on such a marvelous gift! Whatever price you put on yourself or have allowed others to put on you... It's not high enough! ...

For the price that Jesus paid for your, with his life, is a price high above ANY amount that any man (or woman) could ever pay for you!

"Women! God's character goes into the creation of every person. When you feel worthless or even begin to hate yourself, remember that Gods spirit is ready and willing to work within you. We should have as much respect for ourselves as our Maker has for us."

I Love you my Sisters!

Through God's word, the Holy Bible and

through a "relationship" with Jesus, The Christ.

Open your heart,

Seek him and come to know

Know who you are and whose you are!

Learn what you are REALLY WORTH!