I haven' t written much for "On THE JOB" lately, but don't worry, there is always something to write about how our jobs affect us, both positively and negatively. Either negative or positive, The thing is, we NEED TO LEARN how to use these things to grow! Grow for the necessary advantage of being a well balanced employee, employer, and Management in between! While it is true that many people on the job, seem to have their lives in fine balance, there are many who have yet to reach that plateau!
So with that in mind, today's topic is...
"Combining work and family."
If you are like most working people, you have many obligations or "hats to wear." You may be the husband, the wife, the parent, the bill payer, the home organizer! You may be the boss or even if you are the labor, an employee, you still find that you have MUCH to be responsible for other than just your job! This is where your life can get really hectic! Somehow, you find that eventually, your life has to have a balance. You want to be successful in work and home, so let's explore a few ways to make that happen!
Parents, you juggle child care arrangement, doctor appointments, school meetings and your child's extra-curricular activities. Adult children, among other things, many of you are taking care of aging parents. You could be involved in many things including running a business, helping out in church organizations, other community volunteer campaigns, and taking care of yourself AND you are expected to be doing well in all of these activities! Whew and WOW!
Your boss depends on you to be alert, aware, creative, timely, dependable, aggressive, productive, multi-task and successful! Your family needs you to be alert, aware, attentive, creative, a multi-tasker, dependable, nurturing, caring and patient! You need you to be alive and able to cope with it all in a duable and sane manner! You also need to have the ability to make plans and prioritize your time!
You need to be successful in all these endeavors and you need to know there are resources to help you manage these areas of your life and manage them well! Your family and friends are a great resource! Another resource is your company! Check to see if your company is one that has Employee Assistance Services. They may provide you with Personal Counseling, Parenting Services, Child Care Services, Elder Care Services (Care resources for that aging parent) and things of that nature. Investigate these services! Now, If your company does not offer these services, there are places amongst the list of Medical Care Providers, local Agencies such as the Department of Human Services and United Way that can assist you with referrals. Often times Church organizations, that can assist you in finding these services as well!
But let's start with your family and friends. They care about you and may value the personal relationship they have with you and you with them! So why not reach out to them and explain your need for support! Maybe they are already giving and supportive people, but there is something else that you need help with. So, talk with them and be honest! Keep family communication alive, open and in good shape!
Connect with your family.
Make time to be together. Whether those you support and consider your close family includes, a close friend, a spouse, children, cousins, aunts Mom and Dad, know that their needs are important despite your busy schedule. Private time with your children (if any) and your spouse or mate, should be at the tops of list when prioritizing your time.
Organize your life.
Learn and use long-range planning techniques at home and at work. Organize your household so it can operate smoothly even when you are not around! Use tried and "effective" time management skill at work to streamline your job and reduce stress."
Enjoy your leisure time.
Although it is good to share leisure time with close relatives and friends, remember to take some time for yourself! "Alone time" or "Me time" is a good time to rejuvenate, refresh and relax, taking care of you. It is a a good time to exercise, engage in a hobby and find other positive ways to enjoy your personal time with yourself!
Let go of perfection.
Accept the fact that you are normal! And that you make mistakes!
Realize that it is impossible to be a perfect anything! You cannot be the "perfect Parent" spouse, daughter employee or boss. There is a level of success in those area that you wan to reach, but sometimes you are going to fall short. Something is not going to to work out the exact way in which you planned it. "Life is what happens while you're making plans."
So, accept it already will you! Just do your best and be the best you, you can be! The rest will fall "in" or "out" of line. Wherever it falls, let it rest and go on! You'll be fine.
BYE for now!
Some Information provided by a Local Michigan Hospital Employee Assistance Program.
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