My Sister Girls.
"No matter that we are not related. Nor have we ever met.
We are all united by humanity.
So I hereby pronounce you ALL ...
My Sister Girls."
Sister Girls, there are many ways in which we area expected to be. Many ways that we tolerate society. We assume our positions as nurses, doctors, teachers, lawyers, nurturers...daughters, mothers, wives ....we assume our positions as lovers. Lovers to men, some women prefer to be lovers to each other (lesbians), but we are not talking about those here! That's another subject to be dealt with on this site, as of yet.
Still, for those of us who have been in relationships with a man, want to be or are still in them! There is something to be said about when a man does not want a complete and confident woman, but one who is broken, timid or scared! I'm not talking about men, who are gentle, kind, men who care. I'm talking about the men who want to use the broken woman to fulfil some need of power in themselves!
There are men, who want women like this! Women who are beaten down in some kind of way. Women who may be confused, who the the man thinks can be put back together, but only by him! He may want women who may also be living in fear, (broken) of not having a man! So they take advantage of the you, woman! Don't be fooled, there are men (maybe you have been or are with one of them) who are out there thinking like this! Men who want this in the woman they are with, so HE CAN BE IN CONTROL! So that HE can feel superior, feel dominate and strong!
But I challenge this way of thinking in a man. If I could, this is what I would tell them. I would say, "Really man, how strong do you really think you are, seeking to control that which is physically or emotionally weaker, emotionally broken down. Maybe you didn't cause this in her, but you are as bad as that guy who did that to her!
You pretend to be her friend, someone who really cares for her. She doesn't know the truth because you are so good at not showing it! Then again, some of you men are SO BOLD AND BAD, that you may even announce it to her in conversation. You announce it to her, thinking she is so battered and beaten down that she will just BE SO GLAD just to have a man around! So she puts up with YOU instead! But I say Tsk. Tsk, to you foolish men!"
Wisdom can't seem to stop them, those kind of men! Understanding, and compassion have given up trying to be their friends. Instead, they push on, these men. They push on towards the broken these kind of women. They push on, swooping in for the plundering of her, smelling her weakness like a bloodhound! Wanting a woman who is broken, so they can put her back together like a puzzle. So HE can put her back together the way HE wants her!
Women I know some of you may be thinking,
"Meetta, my dear sweet Sister, where has this come from?". I will say, in my life time, I've heard this said from a man. In fact, I've heard it said by several men! As I have conversations with many people in my lifetime, people have said some things that haunt me. And as I grew up in a household full of males, and as James Brown put it, "This is a man's world", the way that a man thinks interests me! In my family, there were 4 boys and one baby girl...Me! It was a dreadful, but enlightening existence to live among them. It was a challenge!
As a woman, I've come to understand that there is much to be said about the man's perspective. So when I can talk with those of the opposite sex about certain things, even taking advantage of conversations with my male co-workers... I listen.
The tale of controlling women, especially those that are deemed broken, has for a long time, concerned me! The wisdom in knowing how some men deem women, has never left me. It has struck me as a serious underlying cause of brutality and the emotional abuse and neglect of women AND THE MEN! And years ago, I wrote a poem expressing my hearts sorrow and anguish at the same time, about this! Let me share it with you in Inspiration Station coming right underneath this article.
"BROKEN", the poem is just below this post
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"TALK" WITH YA SOON.
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