this information comes from a local organization that specializes in helping people through such matters as divorce.
"Divorce can be one of life's most stressful experiences. It also can be a time of creating new relationships, a time for growing and learning. A time for re-establishing yourself! Understanding emotional and physical stresses that often come from experiencing divorce is the first step in leaning how to deal with them. When you acknowledge and accept your feelings, your learning to care for yourself an you family during this difficult time, you'll not only become aware that you can cope with divorce, but also survive it!"
EMOTIONAL STRESS
Separating from someone you had hoped would be your life-partner is usually painful. You might feel like a failure. You may miss the warmth, friendship, financial security and sex you had or hoped you would have with that particular person. Divorce is especially painful if everyone you know seems to be happily married, or if you get little support from your own family.
Your job as a parent is suddenly that much bigger if you now have primary responsibility for the children. You may have less time to spend with them, yet their needs are greater. If you did not want the separation, your resentment and anger may flare up around them, although it's not their fault. You and your former spouse may have conflicts about child support. If you are a parent whose children are not living with you, you may feel guilty, lonely resentful. You may worry that the children may forget you or be turned against you.
*RECOGNIZE YOUR FEELINGS. It's normal to feel lonely, sad or resentful during a divorce (or even at the end of your unmarried relationship. Heartbreak is heartbreak, you know!)
PHYSICAL STRESS
As in any distressful situation, your body is affected. Ongoing stress and cause minor and major illnesses, including headaches, backaches, heart attacks, stroke, the weakening of your immune system, and even cause stomach problems including ulcers. Even if you feel relieved by the divorce, you may have physical symptoms.
TAKE CARE!
You may not be able to change your situation, but you can stay healthy during the transition if you take care of yourself.
*Recognize your feelings. Its normal to feel lonely, frustrated or even hopeless.
Pound on a bed or yell in the care, where no one can hear or see you release your feelings.
*Reach out to others. Friends, relatives, support groups and therapists can support you
too! A hug, phone call, e-mail, twitter message, a phone call or even a visit mean a great deal.
*Take risks. Try a new activity.
It will keep your mind off your problems and help you to meet new people.
*Treat your body well. Cut down on alcohol and smoking. Eat healthy, tasty food. Get exercise! Walking is always good. RELAX! GO to a spa or treat yourself to do-it-yourself
at-home treatments, including taking a long hot soaking bath.
To end I will say, "taking care of yourself and taking risks can have surprising benefits. don't be surprised if eventually you are stronger, more joyful, have inner peace, are more confident and more content than you were before."
Bye Now,
but remember...
Divorce, you can survive it.
And after that, you will begin and continue to thrive. LIVE!
Meetta
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